A Father's Love
My dad and I have a very strained relationship. Our personalities are far too similar causing us to fight more often than not. We are stubborn and sharp tongued, which is a deadly and hurtful combination.
After having some car troubles, yesterday, I sucked it up and called him for help. We discussed all the problems my car could be having and then he asked about school. I did something I don’t EVER do with him… I opened up. I expressed my academic fears and frustrations. He listened and offered some sound advice. There were no lectures. None. He could have easily told me to be smarter, or study harder, but he didn’t. This behavior is very uncharacteristic on both of our parts.
We ended our conversation and then something magical happened, he told me he loved me. I know he loves me, but I haven’t heard him vocalize that love since I was a young child. We hung up, and as I set the phone down I started to cry. For once my tears were tears of happiness.
This is the most progress my dad and I have made in decades. And suddenly I don’t care if I pass the troublesome class or not—the important thing is that my education brought my dad and I together, if only for a moment. That alone is worth every single cent of my tuition.
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Touching story. *wiping the moisture from my eye area* We are the reason our dads had daughters. We soften them up. Plus we’re adorable.
SO HAPPY FOR YOU!!…
Time moves slowly, but it heals most of the time.
Loves,
TOG.
I hope all those hearts that you’re melting inm SLC melt the snow as well.
Awww, that’s really awesome! 🙂
That. Is. Awesome.
I went through a phase of hating my dad (after the parents divorced) I wouldn’t talk to him and he was nothing but kind to me. Somehow years later I guess I grew up and now we are the best of friends! I hope you and you’re dad’s relationship just improves from here!
aww sweetie. What a nice post.
I am so glad that you two were able to connect, even if for just a moment! I’ve grown up watching the two of you and just didn’t understand how you guys could fight like that. The past few years I’ve been able to see what a good man your dad is. I know he loves you and loves all of you. I am glad he is opening up to you and the boys.
Love ya, Sar!
Man, I had a situation like this recently, except it resulted with a closer connection with both my parents. It’s truely an amazing feeling. I am so happy for you! Parent-adult child relationships can be such a sensitive thing. It’s amazing you’re having the opportunity to heal and to feel love. How lucky you are you have the capacity to recieve love and to recognise significance. You rock, lady.
that? is awesome
you’re still his little princess … and always will be. “sniff sniff …”
Ok, I get it. Ya gotta have the feel good post at least once. Now get back to snapping on people, places and things.
What a great post. I’m happy for you both!
After just loosing my own Dad, your post made me cry even more. You descibed a moment that can’t be planned or arranged, but I hope you have lots more of them!
I really am such a sap. I got all choked up reading this. I’m so happy for you.
yey 🙂
Good for you two!!
This story hit home for me as i have never heard my dad say I love you. I am so happy for you and your dad. I only wish i had read this at home as i am now drying my eyes in front of my coworkers..